Confidence in midlife often feels like a fragile thing, especially when perimenopause comes knocking.
Suddenly, your body, mind, and emotions are shifting in ways that leave you questioning everything.
Wrinkles appear, weight seems to multiply overnight, and brain fog steals your nouns.
Society’s obsession with youth and beauty doesn’t help, either.
It makes you wonder where in the hell your confidence went, and how can you get it back?!
Here’s the truth: Midlife isn’t the end of confidence; it’s an initiation into something deeper, more authentic, and entirely your own.
In my latest episode of Midlife by Design, I explore how perimenopause challenges your self-worth and how Human Design offers a framework for redefining it.
Let’s dive into some key insights—and don’t forget to listen to the full episode for even more takeaways.
How Perimenopause Shakes Confidence
Perimenopause isn’t just a biological transition; it’s a full-body recalibration.
Your hormones are shifting, your metabolism is slowing, and your body’s rules seem to have changed overnight.
These physical changes spill into your emotional and social worlds, leaving you feeling disconnected from the person you once were.
Low confidence doesn’t just affect how you see yourself—it ripples into every area of your life:
Decision-making: Second-guessing yourself becomes second nature.
Relationships: You might feel less visible or valued by those around you.
Opportunities: Holding back because you doubt your worth or ability.
But what if midlife could be the start of something new? A chance to rewrite the story about aging and self-worth that society has fed us?
Reframing Confidence in Midlife
Instead of seeing midlife as a loss, let’s reframe it as a shedding—an opportunity to release old identities and step into a version of yourself that’s authentic and free.
This is where Human Design becomes a game-changer.
Human Design is a system that combines elements of astrology, the I Ching, Kabbalah, and more to reveal your unique energetic blueprint. It shows you who you were always meant to be, beyond societal conditioning and external expectations.
Understanding your Human Design helps you:
Align with your natural decision-making process (your Authority).
Identify your consistent strengths (your defined centers).
Build trust in yourself as you make aligned choices.
Practical Steps to Build Confidence
Here are three actionable ways to start redefining your confidence today:
Honor Your Authority: Your Authority in Human Design reveals how you’re designed to make decisions. For example, if you have Sacral Authority, your gut feelings are your guide. Start tuning into your body’s signals and experimenting with trusting them. The more you honor this process, the more self-assured you’ll become. (If you need your chart, get it here.)
Reflect on Your Defined Centers: Your defined centers—the shapes in your chart that are colored in—represent the consistent energy you bring to the world. Take a moment to reflect on these strengths and how they’ve supported you in the past. This exercise alone can remind you of your inherent value, beyond how you look or what society expects.
Practice Confidence in Small Moments: Confidence doesn’t require grand gestures. Start with small, intentional acts:
Set a boundary by saying no to something you don’t want.
Begin a grounding ritual, like looking in the mirror each morning and acknowledging your worth.
Reflect on a time when you trusted yourself and how it paid off.
Take the Next Step with Wild Women by Design
If you’re ready to go deeper, the Wild Women by Design Retreat is a transformational experience designed to help you rebuild your confidence and reconnect with your authentic self. Starting in January, this wraparound retreat offers:
A supportive sisterhood of women navigating midlife together.
Tools to align with your energy and step into the next phase of life with clarity.
A balance of rest, rejuvenation, and guided practices to untangle patterns keeping you stuck.
You’re not broken. You don’t need fixing. You just need space to shed layers of doubt and rediscover the power within you. Learn more about the retreat here.
Midlife is Just the Beginning
Your confidence isn’t gone; it’s simply waiting for you to come back to it.
Midlife is an initiation—a chance to reconnect with your energy, reclaim your worth, and chart a path forward on your terms.
You are not your wrinkles, your weight, or your age.
You are your energy, your power, and your truth.
To explore this topic further, listen to the full episode of Midlife by Design here.
Let’s rewrite the narrative about midlife, together.
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